“You deserve more ease.” Whenever I read those words from Dondra Goldsby – whether they’re in the caption of an Instagram Reel or in her new book – I feel like I’ve been given a permission slip to let go of the weight of overwhelm. Dondra – a writer, coach, and licensed therapist – recently released It’s Lighter Over Here: A Guide for High Achieving Women Who Already Do Enough. Even the title of Dondra’s book makes me feel better, reassuring me that I’m already doing enough and it’s okay to relax, to delegate, to say no.
I’m proud to say that Dondra is not only a member of the See Jane Write Collective but is also an ambassador for the group. She hosts virtual cowriting sessions for the Collective on most Thursdays at noon.
On Thursday, November 19 at 6:30 p.m. CT, Dondra will be leading an online workshop for members of See Jane Write and Alabama Writers’ Cooperative that will show us, writers, that we don’t have to sacrifice our well-being to achieve our goals. Sign up for the workshop, titled The Well-Rested Writer, HERE.
Because of her new book, her upcoming workshop, and all the ways she inspires others to see the best in themselves, Dondra is the See Jane Write Member of the Month. Read on to learn more about Dondra.
What inspired you to write It’s Lighter Over Here?
I’ve known for some time the value of sharing our lived experiences with others once we feel we’ve begun making progress. I also know the consequences of the weight people are carrying, especially women. For as much as I’m a private person, I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to give voice to and offer a roadmap for high-achieving women who already do enough.
What role does writing play in your own personal mental health care?
As a therapist, I know the realities and heaviness that many people carry. A large portion of what I do daily is confidential and can be difficult to carry if you aren’t practicing good mental hygiene. Therefore, maintaining my own mental health practices is essential. Writing provides a necessary outlet for my thoughts and observations, often improving my mood and even adding levity.
What advice would you give to the writer who thinks she has to temporarily sacrifice her well-being to accomplish a goal?
I understand the tendency to operate this way, yet I’ve learned that doing so compromises the writer or her work, or both. We won’t feel optimal every day, but working from depletion is a costly sacrifice. You deserve more ease.
How did See Jane Write help you through the process of writing your book?
In multiple ways. I took your personal narrative writing workshop and found that it helped me to identify and deepen my writing voice. I’m an avid reader and enjoy the extensive resource library available to See Jane Write members. The monthly offerings and weekly meetings are encouraging and offer a supportive community.
Why did you decide to become an ambassador and what’s most helpful about write-in sessions?
I don’t mind raising my hand when I see a need. As I’ve grown in my recovery from overfunctioning, I’ve become selective. I agree with See Jane Write’s vision for women writers, and I’m happy to be a small part of it by offering an inviting space for others. I believe women benefit when we support one another, and in this space, encouraging other women’s writing goals is a gift.
Who should be the next See Jane Write Member of the Month? Send your nominations to javacia@seejanewritebham.com and don’t be afraid to nominate yourself! Not a member? Apply to join here.