Reading: I’m always reading about five books at once. One I just recently started is I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual by Luvvie Ajayi . As you would expect from Awesomely Luvvie, the is laugh-out-loud funny and “a guide to getting some act-right online and in real life.” In the book introduction Luvvie writes, “This book is what Millennial Iyanla Vanzant would give you before you get to the point where you have to sit on her couch for fixing. Luvvie will be speaking at the Blogalicious conference next month in Atlanta which I’ll be attending, with a hard copy of her book and a fresh Sharpie in tow.
That look you have on your face when you know you’re about to slay the game…
I have notebooks on notebooks filled with tips, tricks and strategies that I need to implement to grow my blog, business, and writing career.
Some of the advice on these pages I’ve actually put into practice. Much of it I have not. I tell myself I haven’t done these things because I just don’t have the time. And to be sure, my schedule is quite chaotic. But last month I managed to blog five days a week and keep my business afloat despite family drama, sickness and a heavy workload at the day job. To quote entrepreneur Melanie Duncan, “Successful people don’t have the time to learn and grow; successful people make the time to learn and grow.”
But I recently realized it’s not the lack of time that’s truly holding me back. It’s me!
Last week I looked at that stack of notebooks and asked myself, “What are you waiting for?!” And I realized I’ve been waiting for perfection.
I’ve been putting off a much-needed brand photo shoot because I’d convinced myself I needed to lose 20 pounds first. I’ve been putting off trying to collaborate with my favorite bloggers because I’d convinced myself I needed to revamp my website and Instagram feed first. I’ve been putting off submitting story pitches to my favorite publication because I’d convinced myself I needed to improve my writing skills first. And I’ve been putting off taking See Jane Write beyond Birmingham because I’ve secretly wondered if anyone outside of my hometown would care.
But this is all bull shit.
I recently heard someone say, “You don’t have to get it right; you just have to get it going.” It’s not about perfection, it’s about progress. I say this to the women of See Jane Write all the time. Now I need to take my own advice.
So as I sat down to set my goals for September, I decided to pick five things I’ve been putting off and just go for it. Ashes to ashes, dust to self-doubt. (You’ll catch that on your way home.)
I’m sharing my bold goals in hopes that they’ll inspire you to set a few of your own.
Writing Prompt: Write about the five things you know for sure. Here are mine:
1. God is Love and Love is Life. When it comes to faith, I have more questions than answers. Though I identify as Christian because I love Jesus, organized religion confuses me to no end. It always has. It probably always will. But I am sure that God is Love and Love is Life. My life should center on loving others and loving myself. I believe this is how we worship. This is why I consider my marriage a ministry and my feminism a divine calling. When I serve my husband, when I join hands with the women of my tribe to help them make their dreams come true, these are holy acts. When I share pillow talk with my husband, when my friends and I share secrets over a bottle wine (or two), this is communion.
(1) Lion Babe’s Sun Joint | (2) The Suicide Squad soundtrack. | (3) Frank Ocean’s Channel Orange. Yeah, I know he just released a new album, but I like the old stuff better.| (4) Blogging 5 days a week. | (5) Blog dates with bae. | (6) CoSchedule. It’s changing my life. | (7) The Question of the Day in the See Jane Write Facebook group. | (8) My Jem and the Holograms Synergy earrings. | (9) My Wonder Woman desk chair cape. | (10) My Wonder Woman clutch. | (11) Binge reading blogs like Quirky, Brown Love. | (12) Interviewing women I admire for my B-Metro Write Like a Girl column. | (13) Thinking of a master plan… | (14) Queen of the South on USA. | (15) The Get Down on Netflix. | (16) Greenleaf on OWN. | (17) Losing myself in good books and bad TV. | (18) Watching bad movies with good friends. | (19) Watching my favorite boss babes on Periscope. | (20) My work lunch bunch. | (21) Marshmallow Creme Pumpkins. | (22) Tacos. Always and forever. | (23) Being my husband’s wife. | (24) Being a homeowner. One year later and it’s still not old. | (25) Finally realizing “No” is a complete sentence. | (26) Training for my third half marathon. | (27) The decision to break new ground. | (28) Believing I can do the one thing I’ve always dreamed of doing. | (29) Believing that I will. | (30) Dreaming bigger than I ever have before.
